Mourning

There is something very peaceful and grounding about working in a garden. Perhaps this direct contact with the Earth is healing, fingers digging through the soil in a Zen-like repetitive motion, absorbing and melting away sorrows.

Today, my dear friends Michael and Kristina lost their Dad. Sadness and grief are hard to push aside in such moments, often leaving us with thoughts of missed opportunities. How can we overcome such hard and painful moments?

These are my sincere thoughts for them but also for every one of us. I believe that those who leave us are sometimes closer to us than they ever had been in physical life. And so, accept to open your heart to them again in this new segment of life, for your life carries-on. Choose to liberate yourself from pain through thoughts of love for your children, spouse, family and friends. Cherish memories but do not dwell over them, as living in the past only fills the present with regrets.

In such moments, people are brought closer together because everyone suffers the loss of beloved souls. Regain strength and energy through the love and caring offered by friends and family. Acknowledge that this is a great moment of honesty and that much peace is being offered. Share your pain, dividing the burden, and renew your love and friendship to those around you.

If I may end with this: in Yoga we close our practice with Savasana (corpse pose). This is an essential part of Yoga as it enables us to integrate the practice, the mind becoming more aware of the body and vice-versa. Once we bring our awareness back to the room, we move into fetal pose to remind ourselves that every end offers a new beginning.

May this grieving period bring you a renewed enthusiasm for life’s simplest moments. Much love. Namaste.

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Acceptance

I’ve been thinking about this for quite some time. In fact, I would have to say that the first encounter I had with the idea of acceptance was from a Steven Seagal movie!!! In this scene, a good-looking Chinese woman prepares a bath for the martial art warrior. Little does he know, the bathtub is filled with cold water. The reaction is instantaneous: his hands are clenched to the sides, his whole body and muscles are contracting under the physical stress, and all is thoughts are focused on getting out. Unexpectedly the woman tells him to accept the situation, to stop resisting and fighting what is… And there you have it, the spiritual portion of an extremely cheesy action film!

Acceptance as it relates to the practice of Yoga is in many ways similar to how we choose to experience our daily lives. If with every posture and movement we choose to resist and try to force our way through the practice, it will be arduous, it will feel like an unattainable goal and we will soon be discouraged. Acceptance enables us to acknowledge where we are, to stop resisting and to be satisfied with what we have accomplished. Therefore, instead of overstraining ourselves in extending or bending further, by accepting and experimenting the posture for what it is, we are eventually able to relax and find comfort in discomfort. This is what allows you to move forward.

It is important to understand that acceptance does not mean to give up. On the contrary, acceptance is quite a dynamic process. Only by knowing and accepting where we are NOW can we ever move beyond that point, otherwise, where are we starting from?

If in life we often experience dissatisfaction and regrets, perhaps it is because we haven’t realized what it is we have. We tend to look forward for the next hurdle to jump over instead of appreciating and acknowledging our accomplishments. By not taking the time to accept our situation, we are blinded by what could be when in reality we have brought ourselves to where we are now. And so, start living your life by accepting it the way it is, by understanding that, whether you like it or not, it is the way that it is. Do not label your life and your accomplishments as good or bad, simply let them be factual elements consisting in your starting point. Release. Accept. Live. Love.

Here are a few links I found interesting:

http://www.selfcreation.com/acceptance/index.htm and http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2005/06/self-discipline-acceptance/

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