It is a humbling feeling to be told that we are wrong. Sometimes, it is hard to accept or acknowledge. Sometimes we rather fight than admit that we are wrong. This has always been a hard thing for me to do. The difference now, in most cases, is that I am choosing to listen… eventually!
When someone tells us that we are wrong, or we did something wrong, most of us has this immediate reaction of building up a wall. I don’t know if you’ve tried, but it’s pretty hard to have a conversation with someone that’s in another room! In fact, I am inclined to think that the majority of human relationship suffers greatly from these many walls we put up.
So why do we react this way? The Ego doesn’t like weakness. The school system has also thought us that we should know, that we will be tested and that we will either succeed or fail. And so, if we are wrong then we are weak, if we are weak then we are of no importance, and so on, and so forth. So how can we stop the cycle? I guess it depends. It depends because many won’t even know there is something important on the other side of the wall.
The greatest thing we can do is accept that we do not know everything, and even, that we know nothing at all. When we allow ourselves to do this, we open the door to a world of possibilities because there is so much to learn. Once we get passed the feeling-bad-about-being-wrong stage, we start learning and growing. Maybe it was about time we got that shove back down to Earth to make us realize that we still have lots to learn.
So let’s see if we can become more aware, realizing that others may well have a good point to bring forth. Let’s slow down with this building-up-a-wall-thing and see what we may learn. In fact, let’s put a door and a window in our wall to invite people in and start looking outside of this box. Perhaps we will find that our relationships with others will improve, that confrontation will diminish, and that stress will dissipate? Maybe we’ll even be a bit happier? Who knows.
Only by knowing where we stand can we move forward.