A question that a lot of us have asked ourselves at least once if not many times in our life. For some of us, we are still trying to find the right place, the right people, the right job even. This is one of the hardest question to answer because it is in constant evolution as we change and as the world moves around us. However, it is normal to ask yourself this question and in fact it is healthy because it shows that you are aware or want to become more aware of where you are…
Here are a few thoughts hoping that it will make it easier for those of you who are going through such a process these days. Firstly, I am tempted to ask you why? Why are you asking yourself this question? How do you feel about where you are now? That is to say, what is the driver behind the question?
By identifying your emotional state when you are facing such questions, you become more aware of the minds’ construct. Emotions can blind you in the choices and changes you are seeking to make. I am not saying that you should not feel anything, simply that you should be aware of how your feelings come into play. In his book Oneness With All Life, Eckhart Tolle writes: “Facing facts is always empowering. Be aware that what you think, to a large extent, creates emotions that you feel. See the link between your thinking and your emotions. Rather than being your thoughts and emotions, be the awareness behind them.”
Secondly, ask yourself what it is you are seeking; understand that you cannot do everything at the same time and accept that change may take a long time to set in. Allow yourself to take the space and time you need to reflect. Let thoughts come to you, acknowledging them but not forcing yourself to make a decision. The “what” or “where” you need to be will surface from your thought process by itself; give it time, give yourself a chance.
Finally, realize that wherever you need to be and whatever you need to do, you are doing it right now. Forcing yourself to be someone else is the same as pushing a square peg into a round opening. Be confident in what life brings you and be open to what it teaches you. Be satisfied and accept yourself as you are because you are right where you should be. Be happy.