We all love hearing these words. They makes us feel alive and part of something. And when all else fails, we still have this to hold on to: we are important to someone else. But is it what this really means? Do we need to find that special someone to complete us? And if so, does this mean then that we are incomplete?
The person you are is already complete. In fact, we have everything we need inside of us to be happy, but we also have lots of fears preventing us from digging too deep. We like our comfort. And so, as grey as some days may seem, those are necessary as they allow for reflection and growth. Give yourself a chance.
Those people we love get to see who we really are as if holders of an all-access pass. We trust and open ourselves to them. We discover ourselves with their help even when it sometimes means pain. We are afraid and want to avoid pain because we are thought that it is bad or wrong to feel this way. But if we truly open our hearts to those people, friends or lovers, they will only challenge us to become our true Self.
When we say “you complete me”, what we are in fact saying is: “thank you for helping me open my eyes to who I am. I love you even more.”